Learning from Disappointment
Learning from Disappointment
by Rusty Wright
Amid the disappointments Remember That we on our side the best Comforter (the Holy Spirit) learn how to keep living together DESPITE what is happening around our hopes.
Disappointments can be painful, Regardless of its magnitude. My friend Nancy (note 1) ended a long relationship for Which He Fought for years. Hurtful words, sad memories and daily friction Their had left scars. "I have never experienced the emotional closeness That Other couples enjoy" Nancy Told Me. The hope of a deep satisfaction Became a terrible nightmare and destroyed dreams led her to end Their relationship.
Another friend, Alberto, lost the job I loved. His friends and colleagues valued his accomplishments but his supervisor was strangely distant, and gave him little recognition Criticized. I felt suffocated and understated, so That in the end the dream job Became his frustration.
Susana, meanwhile, Knew something was wrong long before the doctor would say, "The biopsy was positive, is evil and we must perform a lumpectomy or mastectomy to remove .. it "Were the Following days a whirlwind of confusion as Susan Struggled to understand what was happening This was not supposed to be part of her life so special. class president, cheerleader, socialite, wife and proud mother Cancer Attacked others. How I was supposed to handle this tragedy?
When I Reflect on my own life, I not not not realize that I am no different than my friends. We all experience disappointments. Troubled relationships, employment or academic Assessments low, the death of a loved one, health problems, social slights, etc.. ..
Disappointments can end in depression or despair, que can lead to serious Consequences. UCLA psychologist, James C. Coleman Explained with several examples: "The victims of shipwreck lose hope can die Within a few days even if, psychologically speaking, can live . " That Dr. Coleman notes the disillusionment can lead to suicide, while the despair Caused by poverty can manifest as apathy. "The values, ministering ministering ministering purposes and hopes seem to act as a catalyst" to Mobilize the energy and find satisfaction. Without them, it May seem That life is not worth it (note 2). Keeping hope alive
1 - The names and some details changed to protect the privacy of Individuals Have Been
2 - Abnormal Psychology and Modern Life (Abnormal psychology and modern life)
Rusty Wright, associate speaker and writer with Probe Ministries (www.probe.org), is an international speaker, award winning author, journalist and columnist specializing. holds a degree in Psychology from Duke I University and a Masters in Theology from Oxford University. He can be reached at [email protected] © 2004 Rusty Wright. Used with permission. All rights reserved. Translated and adapted by DesarrolloCristiano.com, all rights reserved.
by Rusty Wright
Amid the disappointments Remember That we on our side the best Comforter (the Holy Spirit) learn how to keep living together DESPITE what is happening around our hopes.
Disappointments can be painful, Regardless of its magnitude. My friend Nancy (note 1) ended a long relationship for Which He Fought for years. Hurtful words, sad memories and daily friction Their had left scars. "I have never experienced the emotional closeness That Other couples enjoy" Nancy Told Me. The hope of a deep satisfaction Became a terrible nightmare and destroyed dreams led her to end Their relationship.
Another friend, Alberto, lost the job I loved. His friends and colleagues valued his accomplishments but his supervisor was strangely distant, and gave him little recognition Criticized. I felt suffocated and understated, so That in the end the dream job Became his frustration.
Susana, meanwhile, Knew something was wrong long before the doctor would say, "The biopsy was positive, is evil and we must perform a lumpectomy or mastectomy to remove .. it "Were the Following days a whirlwind of confusion as Susan Struggled to understand what was happening This was not supposed to be part of her life so special. class president, cheerleader, socialite, wife and proud mother Cancer Attacked others. How I was supposed to handle this tragedy?
When I Reflect on my own life, I not not not realize that I am no different than my friends. We all experience disappointments. Troubled relationships, employment or academic Assessments low, the death of a loved one, health problems, social slights, etc.. ..
Disappointments can end in depression or despair, que can lead to serious Consequences. UCLA psychologist, James C. Coleman Explained with several examples: "The victims of shipwreck lose hope can die Within a few days even if, psychologically speaking, can live . " That Dr. Coleman notes the disillusionment can lead to suicide, while the despair Caused by poverty can manifest as apathy. "The values, ministering ministering ministering purposes and hopes seem to act as a catalyst" to Mobilize the energy and find satisfaction. Without them, it May seem That life is not worth it (note 2). Keeping hope alive
- Adjust your expectations
Not all teams win the world championship nor all athletes win Olympic Gold. Not all applicants get the job, people get sick and not all marriages live happily ever after. So one Might Think That It is not worth setting lofty goals, but That the truth is no one likes to be poor and always seeks to Achieve them. On the other hand we can support our hope We Should Also where not. For example, if your best hope is to succeed over time was disappointed Because success is transient . King Solomon wrote, "when I Surveyed That all the works my hands had done and the Work That had engaged me, and behold, all was vanity and striving after wind, and no profit under the sun" (Ecclesiastes 2.11). On the other hand, if we are so afraid to leave disappointed May be tempted to lower our expectations and away from what God wants for us. Striking the right balance is difficult but not impossible. - Learn from your failures
Disappointments and failures help build character and patience When we let it. We are-taught to win and lose gracefully, an art That These Days is dying out. Paul shares the church in Rome (Romans 5:3-4) "We rejoice in our Sufferings, knowing suffering produces endurance That, and perseverance, proven character, and proven character, hope?" The inner spiritual strength, That Resulting from a sincere faith in God, Helps form our attitudes. - Develop relationships
Often God minister through our others wounds. However, sometimes we are tempted to build walls When we are vulnerable, but if we leave out our friends, We Could be closing the door to healing and to hope.During Particularly difficult time of my life, I Thanked God for my close friends. My wife was divorcing me, some friends and I Were Feared me Betraying The Possibility of cancer. Two days before the divorce came to fruition a lifelong friend called me to check on her. cried as II my world had collapsed but knowing That my friend was there and really cared what I was experiencing acerca, I Gained strength and hope to endure trials. - Deepen your relationship with God
Friends are essential but do not forget That They are human beings who can defraud or wrong. Fortunately very early in my life I Realized That God would never leave me because i had Told Me Already. 'I will never leave you nor forsake you "(Hebrews 13:5) Their friendship has sustained me all these years even amid criticism from friends and foes, financial challenges, disappointments and broken relationships academic Whose God is the one record is clean, so it makes sense to trust Him Paul Renewed his strength and hope through his friendship with God, I've writes:.? 'If God is for us, who can be against us I did not spare his own Son who, but delivered him up for us all, how will ? I have not freely give all things Also With Him . " (? Romans 8.31 32) Paul was convinced nothing That Could separate him from the love of God: "For I am convinced neither death nor life That, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature can separate us from the love of God? "(v. 38). The more we put our security in God's eternal love, disappointments have less power to undermine our hopes. - Focus on the ultimate hope
During this dark time in my life, my mentor Reminded me of what Paul Told the church in Rome. "And we know That For Those Who love God all things work together for good" (8.28) My mentor Told Me That it was still valid even today and the truth is I was right. Sometimes we focus on the here and now, but remember That our current situation is not the end of history. Knew what Paul was Suffered by the disappointments, just enough to. read his letters to notice . However, I have never Ceased to Encourage believers to see beyond, even in the midst of trials and clinging to hope in God supreme The Apostle writes:. "THEREFORE do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being Renewed day by day for this slight momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, Because We look not at the things Which are seen, but on what is unseen, for the things Which are seen are temporary, but not seen are eternal That. "(2 Corinthians 4:16-18). God's plans are always Greater than ours and although the short-term disappointments hurt not compare at all with the ultimate hope That we enjoy in the Lord.
Exhorts recipients Peter (1 Peter 1:13): "THEREFORE, prepare your minds for action, be sober-minded, Set your hope fully on the grace to be Given you at the revelation of Jesus Christ." In other words, wonderful things will happen When Jesus returns to this world so troubled. But even today, God offers compassion, forgiveness strength to trust Him and Those Who A Relationship with Him fills us with great hope That Strengthens us to face any disappointment.
1 - The names and some details changed to protect the privacy of Individuals Have Been
2 - Abnormal Psychology and Modern Life (Abnormal psychology and modern life)
Rusty Wright, associate speaker and writer with Probe Ministries (www.probe.org), is an international speaker, award winning author, journalist and columnist specializing. holds a degree in Psychology from Duke I University and a Masters in Theology from Oxford University. He can be reached at [email protected] © 2004 Rusty Wright. Used with permission. All rights reserved. Translated and adapted by DesarrolloCristiano.com, all rights reserved.